something to share for the day (from the same book)..
"w/o an understanding of this last difference, a women can feel neglected when a man waits to the last minut to plan time with her or when he doesn't anitcipate her needs. if a woman understand this differences, she is no longer resents needing to ask for support, because she realizes that his brain simply doesn't work the way hers does.." - woman brains are designed to anticipate the emotions, sensitivities and needs of others. men, on the other hand, are more acutely aware of their own needs. Since thousands of years, they need this ability to protect themselves in the wild. on the other hand, a woman's kufe insurance was making sure she cared for others.
a woman's biggest challenge is to begin caring for herself as much as she is caring for others.
single Focus on Mars/ Multitasking on Venus
a woman brain has a larger corpus callosum, the bundle of nervs that connects the right and left hemispheres, is 25% smaller in men. This means that men do not connect feelings and thoughts as readily as women do. In real sense, women have superhighways connecting their feelings to speech, while men have back roads with plenty of stop signs. This stronger connection between parts of the brain increases a women's ability to multitask. When she is listening, she is also thinking, remembering, feeling and planning all at the same time.
a man's brain is highly specialized, using a specific part of a single hemisphere to accomplish a task. A woman's brain is more diffuse, using both hemispheres for many tasks. This neurological difference allows men to focus and block out distractions for long periods of time. While women tend to see things ina broader context, from a larger vantage point.
hence, this insight can help a woman not to take it personally when he is at the computer and seems annoyed when asks him a question. It is simple for her to shift gears when interrupted, but it is much more difficult for him.
i'm finishing the book soon. each day i start to understand myself and women more, and as i read i realise the many things that actually did happened over time. How complex can thoughts and emotions be? Only if you care to find out the differences and increase your awareness.
differences create attraction and passion, and we are.
understanding will be tough, just like chemical structures, it's meant to be that way.
we need to know, then to communicate, and to cross the hurdle. otherwise, every relationship will just fail the way it is as time passes, be it before or after marriage.
good night.
