Had a nice chat with SM and SM while walking home. Sometimes friends are great, they help you to forget about problems. Anyway, they've made me blush terribly. =)

Sometimes I wonder, how do gods up there play match making with humans? Was things meant to be? What had happened is it something beyond our control? How do they play with us on their chess board?

Sometimes in relationships, you can be close in distance but not in heart. Why?Displacement? But most people would say, close in heart but not the distance.
I guess often it's due to the differences which both parties have.

Example:
Differences in the way you're bought up in a family causes you to have different type of perception of life. Differences in religions can be one of those too. Many of our thinkings are constructed by how we go about believing things around us.

Anyway, in Love there are many things which both parties have to compromise and accomodate for life. I would like to repeat again, it's for LIFE. Many couples do not come compatible once they come together. Gradually, they find out their differences. If they're able to brush them out, things will be sweet and smooth.

Compromising and Accommodating can be only to be a limit I guess? Living together is not an easy thing. There can be disliking even if you still love the person. My Dad once say, "Find a wife who you want her to go on for LIFE it's not an easy thing. You've got to find the right door that when you close, it'll close properly ("men dang hu dui" in chinese) forever, leaving you no problems no matter how many times you close and open.

His interpretation of "men dang hu dui" is - Naturally, both parties must be able to communicate easily and you've got to feel right for each other. Other factors such as family backgrounds got to match, religions, beliefs and etc. Do not see such as a small problem cause it's about living togther for LIFE. Both parties have to share the same. It's all about similiarities in interest and tihinking.

Some couples manage to last from school days till now and yet differences hasn't brush properly. We do not say actually MUST have lots of similarities, but the manin thing is both parties beliefs and way of communication.

Just think, if you're one who always speaks Chinese and the other who always speaks English. Sadly, you're able to cope with English too but not very well. In terms of communication, wouldn't there be a presence of emptiness? It's a language that is close to you but it's not close to heart. You won't feel that the other part do really understand you. That is what I meant, you can be close in distance but not in heart.

On the other hand, the other party who thinks that things are going on right feel loved, and all the good things are on his/her side. Has he/she given a second thought to the other party? Maybe not till the other party voices out.

Beliefs and thinking is one thing are often cause break ups. Sometimes you couldn't stand the other party's beliefs and you try means for his/her to understand you. At the same time, he/she hopes that you can compromise.

Sometimes it's bought up since young, and it can be so difficult to compromise. Sometimes you've got to let go, it's a signal.

As I listen to Qi Li Xiang..

Yu Xia Zhen Ye..
Wo De Ai Yi Chu Jiu Xiang Yu Shui..

Yes, everyone's love can be like rain, showering on the other party. But when differnces and obstacles come in, there's no space to shower the love. It's just like when you're under the shelter and refuse to step out of it and feel the rain drops on your tender skin.

Sometimes, the endng can be quite sad. Both parties may lose hopes and dreams - Shattered and Clashed.

Heart fill with only emptiness. Sometimes you may just not see it, cause you're in it and thus seeing no wrong in any ways which may affect things. But problems will come soon later. Often, it may also because all the while you've been bought up this way.

Ending can be sad, it's for a LIFE thing. Sigh, maybe that's life.

"Zou Yi Bu Kan Yi Bu Le.."